I wanted to look into the negative side of feedback and how our minds find a way to twist feedback into criticism. I read in Why rejection hurts so much — and what to do about it that our brains are hardwired to think that way. The same area of our brain that experiences pain is the area that is activated when we experience rejection. But nonetheless, most of the pain is self-inflicted. We become self critical when we receive negative feedback on something we thought was good work. Thus, the second guessing of ourselves starts. The good news is we can stop this from happening. The article says that if you reaffirm things about yourself that are valuable you can help rebuild your self confidence after taking a blow. Another thing one can do is revel in the positive feedback you have been given. Most likely somebody is going to leave you with positive feedback as well. Dig into the positive suggestions and believe what they say. I read these tricks on Silence the Critical Voices in Your Head. Overall, even if our brains are wired to focus on the negative there are many things you can do to avoid having a pity party for yourself and actually take the feedback for what it is. Somebody giving suggestions in order to help you!
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